Why striving to improve your partner, why not yourself first

[Adams]

There was an old saying that, “Some people pick a partner for their potential to be who they want and expect them to CHANGE while others pick their partner for exactly who they are today and expect that they WON’T."

Both types are bound to be sorely disappointed.

I don’t know you (or your partner) but I know this if you’ve shared struggle profoundly around honesty and superficiality which is common in relationships nowadays.

Then this is for you: If you really care about your partner, give them the gift of your absence and go work on yourself.

The only person from whom you should ever seek change is you and the earlier you accept this the better your relationship life.